Topics to avoid in order not to disturb
That Italians are a people who love chatter is well known. Everyone likes to chat and discover new things. However, it is not always pleasant to intrigue those who receive our messages. When it is the darkest caverns of the human personality that are touched.
Let's face it, we are also often prone to intrusiveness; when a fact does not affect us personally, we tend to ask embarrassing questions. We soon find ourselves touching, if not even sinking, into what are the taboos of society. All it takes is an uncertain look, a facial expression or a waning tone of voice to be quickly seized by the taboo.
Italians and their taboos
One of the main themes on which we tend to sew our mouths is the sex. Not everyone wants to talk about their sexual adventures, especially if these involve feelings or emotions still in progress, chapters that have never been closed, or closed but not entirely. Especially if instead we dedicate ourselves to a libertinage that is not always understood by the conversationalists in question. Too frequently the doors are opened to a flood of judgments, becoming the protagonists of often uncomfortable thoughts.
This easily hooks into the taboo topic par excellence: the ex. And nothing worse when you find yourself having to avoid questions such as name, surname, where he lives and what he does in life. This is definitely to be avoided, ask. The world is small and not everyone wants to meddle in any common knowledge. As if social media were not already a plague for this.
Diseases and death
Another taboo subject is the death. Yes, because dealing with the theme of the dead means having to open a cave of one's soul that in most cases is not accepted. Having to talk about themselves, their feelings and their point of view that once again may not be accepted.
Ditto for the diseases: that they can be brutal like cancer, or simple somatic dermatitis, Italians do not like to open topics that can in any way arouse discomfort, negative thoughts, or be associated with the collective imagination of the disease. This would lead to having “pitiful” and compassionate attitudes, finding understanding looks that clash within a context.
Politics
Another taboo subject is now there policy. Although you always wander around to understand on which side the person you have the pleasure of conversing with, it is better to try to avoid sneaky attempts to understand what the political alignment is, also given the last moonlight. As well as immigration, after the media bombardment that is taking place in recent times, it would be advisable to avoid the topic unless you want to immediately label yourself in search of support, or as an excellent way to put a black cross on the interlocutor.
Money
Something absolutely not to do is "reckon in the pockets of others". Never start talking about money. Especially when you are at the bar table and do the bill waiting to see who will offer. Or what will be the payment method for the evening! Money, with the present crisis and ever-pressing unemployment can be a highly harmful topic, to be avoided to avoid being labeled or salty dinners bills, both for the unemployed and for those on permanent contracts.
The religion
La religion moreover, it has always been a taboo subject. One may be afraid of facing an expert theologian who has been stolen from the convents for some reason. Or to have a chance to talk to a witch who can't wait to burn at the stake. In short, religion is an uncomfortable subject to deal with. It is always better to let the conversation slip immediately into less "heavy", less reflective times. To ensure that the pleasantness of dialogue is really not linked to philosophy, especially if theological.
The horoscope
Another taboo: thehoroscope. There is nothing wrong with having a soft spot for Paolo Fox's astronomical predictions. Nor is there anything wrong with turning on the radio every morning waiting for auspicious words that can brighten your day along with the awakening coffee. But do not let the other side see too much that you are trying to discover the fate of the stars of your interlocutor. He may feel uncomfortable and perceive superficiality in knowledge. Unless he is as interested as you are in finding out why the stars have placed you in front of each other.
Moving on to a lighter side, it is often good to keep your passion for i to yourself reality! In a society where TV series have by now taken full possession of the screen, thinking that someone could become passionate about a reality TV is becoming an absolutely taboo subject. Forbidden to open this file!
And if you are not an expert on TV series, no problem. It will be better to talk about your musical tastes, unless again you are hiding skeletons in the closet. In this case it would be good to make the so-called "taboo" that you keep in the dashboard of your car disappear!